Hey there, beautiful soul! Have you ever found yourself yearning for the nurturing and guidance that your parents may not have been able to provide?
A little bit about My Story
I feel you, Love! Growing up, my parents' divorce had a profound impact on my upbringing. As the second oldest of three girls at the time, my mother had to navigate being a single parent, which was no easy feat. Although she did the best she could, her emotional unavailability, poor coping mechanisms and verbal abuse left me feeling emotionally codependent and struggling to form healthy relationships. On top of that, I had deep abandonment issues after my Dad left.
I grew up feeling like something was missing, like there were gaps in my upbringing that needed to be filled. That's when I discovered re-parenting, and it changed my life. Re-parenting is the beautiful and transformative process of nurturing and healing yourself, filling in those gaps that your parents may have left unfilled. It's not always an easy journey, but it's incredibly rewarding and necessary for our healing.
In my blog post, I'll share six signs that you should begin reparenting yourself today, along with some practical tips to get started. Join me on this journey of healing and growth as we explore the transformative power of reparenting. Let's fill those gaps together and embrace the beautiful, whole, and healed individuals that we were meant to be.
1. You Lack Patience
One of the most common signs that you need to re-parent yourself is a lack of patience. If you find yourself getting frustrated easily, feeling overwhelmed or anxious when things don't go as planned, or struggling to focus on tasks, it might be a sign that you need to work on developing more patience.
To start, try setting small goals for yourself, such as taking a few deep breaths before responding to a stressful situation or practicing mindfulness meditation for a few minutes each day. A great technique that I like to use is counting in my mind before responding to a certain situation. For example, if I feel as if my daughter is not moving quickly enough to complete a task, I count to myself to reflect on how long it is actually taking her to compete the task. Often times, her pace is just fine and I find that I was being impatient and impulsive. Remember to be kind and compassionate with yourself, and celebrate your progress along the way.
2. You constantly seek validation and approval
3. You struggle with emotional regulation and expression
4. You don't show compassion when mistakes occur
5. You find yourself in a constant cycle of people-pleasing.
6. Your self-talk is always harsh and critical of your actions
Summary
In summary, realizing that there are some gaps and you should begin your reparenting journey to help you heal into your higher self is the first step. Although the journey can be difficult at times, the process is so worth it. As you begin to heal, you give yourself permission to accept, grow, and be happy. The key to a healthy healed life is introspection and self reflection. Take some time throughout your day to focus intentionally on your actions and how often your find yourself exhibiting one or many of these six signs, You've go this, girl!
I want to hear from you!
Does any of this sound familiar to you? I would love to hear your story, feel free to comment below. Also, comment below and let me know how these tips and insights helped you. What are some tools that you have developed to help you on your reparenting journey? What are more topics that you would like for me to post about. Let me know down in the comments. Be sure to share this with two of your friends that can benefit from beginning their healing journey!
Until next time, much Love, Peace, Light, Joy, and HEALING!
-Quella
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